Getting married is not an excuse to get comfortable. …It’s an opportunity to become your best self.

1. Don’t try to change her

Focus on growing together and holding each other accountable.

2. Know her love language

• Words of Affirmation: This love language involves expressing affection through verbal compliments, words of encouragement, praise, and appreciation.
• Acts of Service: People with this love language feel loved when their partner performs acts of service or kindness for them, such as helping with chores, running errands, or doing tasks to ease their burden.
• Receiving Gifts: Some individuals feel most loved when they receive thoughtful gifts from their partner. These gifts don’t have to be extravagant; rather, they symbolize love, thoughtfulness, and effort.
• Quality Time: This love language focuses on spending meaningful, undivided attention with one another. Quality time can involve engaging in activities together, having deep conversations, or simply enjoying each other’s company without distractions.
• Physical Touch: For people with this love language, physical touch is a primary way of expressing and receiving love. This includes hugs, kisses, holding hands, cuddling, and other forms of physical affection.

3. Never stop dating

Continue to be the man your wife fell in love with. Don’t get comfortable. Boredom is the enemy.

4. Pursue your purpose

A man with a strong purpose is unstoppable. If you don’t know your purpose, read: “Managing Oneself” by Peter Drucker

5. She is not your mother

It’s not her job to make you happy… …that’s your responsibility. She should increase your happiness, not be the source.

6. Loyalty

A woman proves her loyalty by staying with him when he’s broke. A man proves his loyalty by staying with her when she’s sick.

7. Be decisive

Overthinking is unattractive. Make quick decisions with an open mind for adaptability.

8. Protect and provide

Learn martial arts: •Boxing •Wrestling •Jiu jitsu •Kickboxing Be wise with money and have an emergency fund for a psychological advantage.

9. Respect

You can have disagreements without losing respect for one another.

10. Stop seeking approval

As a man, you will be taken for granted. You don’t need recognition for everything.

11. Communicate effectively

Be honest, vulnerable, and don’t play games. Don’t withhold information from each other. You’re not a mind-reader.

12. Tell her regularly

-I love you -I support you -I love talking to you -I cant imagine my life without you

13. Optimism

No one likes being around a pessimist. The most successful people I know are usually irrationally optimistic.

14. Support her no matter what.

15. Listen

Sometimes the best form of communication is listening. She doesn’t always need her problems fixed. She wants you to listen.

16. Notice the little things

When she feels heard, she feels loved. This shows you pay attention. The small things are important!

17. Be healthy

Every successful person I know has high energy. When you’re healthy, it’s easy for your wife and kids to be healthy: -Lift weights -15k steps a day -Be highly active -Eat nutrient dense food -Good hydration -Eat with moderation